I think it is awesome that fighting, arguments, and anger in a relationship/marriage isn't something we're supposed to ignore, cover up, or dismiss. Although anger and conflict in a marriage is not pleasant, it can be helpful. We sometimes have a tendency, no matter how open a relationship is, to bottle things up. These can sometimes range from thoughts or annoyances between the couple or even events or people outside of the marriage. For instance, the best friend of the husband dies, it's natural for him to close himself up, or distance himself from everyone, including his wife. And although that is understandable, it still affects the wife in a negative way, which can lead to conflict on down the road. Of course, this is where communication can be helpful. Sometimes, I feel, forcing communication within a relationship is necessary. To point, a conflict, if handled properly, can make someone open up. The wife will complain to her husband that she feels alone. He may lash out because he feels convicted of that fact, however, when he does, he will also be opening up.
When conflict within a marriage occurs, I think the best course of action is communication, paying attention, and learning. Sadly, when a couple gets into a fight, the last person on their mind to please or sympathize with is their spouse. Perhaps that is the very best thing to do.
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This is where planning can come in. Couples should acknowledge arguments will happen down the line and plan ahead on a way to work through them. There are a variety of techniques.
One of the most important things, to me, is stated in the name of this particular blog.... always present a united and loving front before the children. After all, they learn quite a bit about love and expression in their lives through watching their parents!
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